Every week I try to feature a teen voice on my blog. This week we’re hearing from I. Objio. Please feel free to comment on his piece.
LISTEN TO US
by I. Objio
When people talk to you, do you listen to their opinions? If you do, good. If not, let me present you with a different scenario.
When you talk to people, do they ignore you? It doesn’t seem fair, does it? This is why I think kids and teens should be allowed to express their ideas or opinions without being ignored or accused of “talking back.”
Here’s something most adults don’t seem to understand: kids understand more than you think we do.
Kids and teens aren’t just pieces of hollow, dumb driftwood that float along the river of life. We understand when you say “We can’t afford this,” or “I’m so stressed.” But yet, when we try to comfort or help you, we get “Go away” or “Be quiet” in return.
Also, when adults tell us to do things their way and we respond, “But, what if…” we’re not trying to annoy you. Yes, I admit, sometimes we do try to rile you up, and I’m not saying it’s okay to disrespect you; nevertheless, think of the stuff we’re going through: peer pressure, trying to find out who we are, puberty (which is a horror story all by itself). Back to the point. If you guys don’t want our help, fine. But, please don’t punish us for trying.
If we do talk back, you don’t have to scream and shout the cliché “Go to your room.” You should still show your kid it’s wrong but don’t stop there. Try to get us to explain why we think the way we do.
Kids and teens will try to mouth off and get fresh with you and, again, I’m not saying it’s okay, but don’t always treat us like a pest that must be squashed. Kids and teens are like poems and books: they always have another meaning underneath.