I asked my teens (all 120 of them): what does it mean to be a guy or girl (pick your gender only)? What do you want authors to write about you, that they aren’t right now? Here is one of the responses from Celina S.
BEING A GIRL, THE DARK EDITION
by Celina S.
To be a girl, it means to be everything. I honestly believe guys couldn’t exist without us girls. Being a girl also means to be a pro at personal hygiene.
What it means to be a girl is that fear of being regarded badly. It means being very fragile but oh-so-strong. It means that hardened shell with the weeping girl inside. Pretending to be stronger that you really are.
That need for praise because you can’t convince yourself of your worth. It means having to be that stereotypical girl for people to like you, and to live yourself in secret.
That unique thing about you everyone hates because it makes you different, better even, so they try to destroy that seed of true beauty. It means having to nourish that seed secretly and not being able to show it, otherwise that beautiful flower it’s become will be torn apart by people.
Being a girl means getting destroyed piece by piece and having to endure verbal abuse, because of course, most of the time girls are viewed more critically that guys judging by looks and weight.
It means being taken advantage of, not being overly smart (its unattractive) or overly nice (its faked). It means doing everything but no one gives. It means being “useless” and underestimated.
Being a girl means having to live in hiding, hiding not only from everyone else but from yourself, too. Because you’ll constantly be pulling yourself down. You’re not like the others: pretty enough, liked enough, kind enough. Perfect enough.
You’re not perfect. Being a girl means that need to be. That trying to be what you are not for the sake of not having to deal with the sneers, laughs, pointing fingers. Those whispers, too.
“Did’ya see her clothes?”
“Her hair, ewww.”
“She’s so mean!”
Those whispers. Girls like to be perfect. Don’t treat them that way because they’ll remember. Forever.
You don’t ever want to be a girl. Because it’s not just rainbows and smiling faces.
There’s a dark side to being a girl.